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Cry baby

December 3, 2009

You know that old joke that goes:

-In the dictionary next to the word “gullible” is a picture of you.


Well, they need to put my picture next to the phrase “sucker for emotional manipulation.”

Seriously, I have become such a cry baby in recent years. I seem to cry at the drop of a hat now, and I never used to. Anything remotely saccharine or heartwarming can set me off. I was watching The Biggest Loser last night and I couldn’t help myself. All the reunions and reaching goals and pride and life saving. My tear ducts went into overdrive. Then we watched the movie Bolt, which contains a scene in which a character describes how she was abandoned by her family. Cue the water works!

Sheesh. It’s not that I like chic flicks and romantic comedies over darker, more serious dramas and indie films. But they just get to me. I’m baffled by this reversal. Perhaps because I see myself as a relatively serious person in public, this inner softie seems completely at odds. Hm. Do I see myself as having a hard heart?

3 Comments leave one →
  1. Julia Bates permalink
    December 3, 2009 1:54 pm

    Crying. I nearly sobbed aloud as I saw Darien lined up with his groomsmen at the wedding. Recognition of a turning point–a no turning back–and the courage that implies.

    Crying comes from my softer part. In some way I am comforting the child side of myself who doesn’t understand, has no protection from, feelings of compassion for the beautiful/troubled world around it.

    Not crying is such a ‘male’ quality. When did being unfeeling become a virtue?

  2. December 6, 2009 7:38 am

    An inner softness is a wonderful trait. I think that what makes us suspicious of it is that there are scoundrels out there (advertisers, politicians, etc.) who take advantage of this soft sense for their own dubious ends. Hence the manipulation. We sometimes think we need to become hard in response. But in reality, we just need to become wise. So stay soft. Or as Jesus put it to his disciples, “Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves.”

  3. sarah permalink
    December 6, 2009 9:39 pm

    you know, i don’t think i’ve ever seen you cry. hmm.

    i’ve definitely become much more of a crier in recent years. i can’t get through an episode of “glee” without misting up at least once. that’s right, a show about a high school glee club. try not to get jealous.

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