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4 weeks of Alban

February 28, 2012

My son is four weeks old today. My son! It’s still sometimes hard to believe that I have a son and that I am a mother now. What a blur the last four weeks have been! Between feedings, naps, staring adoringly, trying to do basic household tasks, and keeping the business going, it is often 3 p.m. before I have a moment to get anything not baby related accomplished. But it has been a wonderful time so far. Alban seems to be a pretty chill baby. He really only cries when he’s hungry, and while that seems to be fairly often in the dead of night, he makes up for it by being so damned adorable I can hardly stand it.

I was prepared for a weird looking baby, an alien looking baby, even an ugly baby, because who are we kidding? Not all babies are cute. And I had heard that newborns, in particular, can be especially odd looking. In all honesty, I was not prepared for him to be so effing beautiful. Yet, here I sit, gazing at his little face that looks somehow like both me and my husband, and 100% like himself, thinking that he is just perfect.

He cycles through a multitude of expressions, which we all find endlessly entertaining. He sleeps so peacefully. He is an expert at getting the hiccups, and not so expert at keeping the Nuk in his mouth. He is strong. He is learning to push off with his feet and scoot. He’s got a good grip. He is furry on his ears and his back, which I find hilarious and endearing. He’s got big hands and long toes. He has the sweetest mouth that forms “o’s” and hints at the smiles that will inevitably slay me in a few short weeks. He has a large mongolian spot on his hip, officially branding him Asian. He’s got a full head of dark hair. His eyes were steely grey when he was born, but I think they are starting to change. He has western eyelids. I think his nose looks more like mine than his dad’s. He’s starting to chub up in the cheeks, belly, and folds of his wrists. He has already been to several restaurants, two churches, in several cabs, on a bus, and on a car trip. He loves the sling, and falls asleep almost immediately after being “holstered up,” as Darien would put it. He and the beagles have met, and he doesn’t mind the beagle kisses he sometimes gets on his head, face, and feet.

I am recovering nicely. A week ago I felt well enough to stop taking painkillers. I feel mostly like my old self again, except for my abdomen. I feel as though my abs have been removed. My belly feels very weak and flabby. I think I am within 10 pounds of my pre-baby weight, and I am convinced that at least three of those currently reside in my bust. For someone who has been an A cup all my adult life, it was quite a shock when the woman measured me at the breastfeeding store and asked if I was wearing a D. Lordy.

We are currently spending the week at my parents’ house to get some grandparent/uncle time, and also to let Darien rest, as he has a very busy work week. We are missing each other, but this has been such a wonderful time for my parents and brother, and a relief for me to be able to get some work done or take a nap with someone always there to look after the baby. Pretty soon it will be just our new little family back in New York, and I will have to figure out how to bathe before the sun sets, and other necessities of life. But for now, we are in the cocoon of babyland, and I have two more weeks of eating anything I want.

5 Comments leave one →
  1. Julie Hudson permalink
    February 29, 2012 1:40 pm

    Congratulations to you and your family! Enjoy!

  2. Julia Bates permalink
    March 4, 2012 10:08 pm

    Can’t wait to come to NYC and give you some grandma support! He’s changing so fast! I love the scooting video! Hugs.

  3. Jeanne Vote permalink
    March 7, 2012 1:15 pm

    Congratulations, dear B & D. Alban is truly beautiful, as are his parents. Your blog is wise and honest. Like the sweet description of your new baby, it is endearing. Two intelligent artists as parents may not have financial wealth, but oh the lovely interesting life you will find as a family! Be greedy with joy and when you run into bumps in the road (which we all do) you have wonderful family and friends. Use them. Much love to you.

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